Monday, July 29, 2013

WOW! Check Out What I've Been Up To!!!

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to let you know what I've been up to since I moved my location from here to

Here are my most recent articles that are not currently on this site.  I'll include the links in case you want to go visit to check one of them out.  If you are re-routed to the main page, which seems to be happening, check under the archives for July for a specific post that you are looking for.  Thanks.

If you are a follower of this page, please be sure to follow at the new site because that is where I will be posting all my new posts.  I appreciate the fact that you all keep stopping by!!  Please "LIKE" and "SHARE" each post that you enjoy!!  It may brighten the day of someone you care about and they will thank you!  Love you!!

  1. "22 Years Of Marriage - Our Secrets Revealed - Part 1" - We have been asked by so many people what our secrets are for being in a relationship for so long and how we have kept the love alive.  Part 1 and 2 go into a little detail about what our secrets are.  We encourage you to share yours or ask questions.  Check Part 1 out at:
  2. "22 Years Of Marriage - Our Secrets Revealed - Part 2" - Here is part 2 of how we have kept things alive for more than 22 years.  I hope you will find something new to use in here.  We also encourage you to share with us your favorite tip and one of yours if you have one.  You can check part 2 out at:
  3. "They Will Always Be Loved" - A short post about my men.  The big question, "How do you connect with your loved ones and how often?"  Check it out at:
  4. "Is Your Universe Out Of Balance?" - In this one I talk about what balance is when it comes to your life and how to get back in balance.  This will help you be more at peace with your day-to-day life.  You can view this one at:
  5. "Journey Toward The Spartan Race" - You will learn a little more about me and get to see me in action.  This is a feel good story about perseverance and mind over matter.  It discusses how you really can do anything you put your mind to. I am living proof!!  To find out more, click:
  6. "This Is My Dream" - is a poem I wrote about following your dreams and not letting anyone else try to bring you down or distract you.  This one received a lot of traffic and likes.  You too can enjoy it at:
  7. "10 Famous Quotes On The Importance Of Your Thoughts" - This is exactly as the title suggests, with maybe a not-so-famous (YET) quote of mine thrown in.  This is a quick read but very inspirational.  You can reach it by clicking:
  8. "Optical Illusions - What Do You See?" - This is a fun post with several optical illusions.  I tie these in with the idea that there are several ways to view people and events.  Sometimes we need to look a little closer.  These are fun but be sure to read and think about the message around it.  Click here for this one:
  9. "Introducing Yogi" - Yogi is our year and a half old German Shepherd who is a big part of our family.  I just talk a little about him, what he means to us and the tricks he can do.  This is a light hearted piece with some very cute pictures.  You can enjoy this one at:
All of these and many more can be found at my new location at www.PeaceAndHappiness Project where I continue to talk about how to reduce your stress and increase your inner peace and happiness.  I hope you will follow the new page and share the pieces that touch your heart.

I can also be found on Facebook at Words That Touch Your Heart, my author page.

Thank you as always for stopping by!!

Missy Cantlin Bell


Saturday, July 20, 2013

You Can Run But You Can't Hide

 Have you every just wanted to run away, escape your problems or pack your bags and go on a long vacation  so you didn’t have to deal with what was going on in your life and finally find that happiness you’ve been searching for?  Have you ever thought that perhaps you would be happier if you just left everything behind and started over by moving to another state or country?

Life can be a lot to handle.  It throws you some crazy fast balls, straight at your face sometimes.  Escaping it is only temporary.  Unless you solve the issues that are there, they don’t go away.  They will follow you wherever you go.  After close inspection, you will realize that it was not your problems you were running from, it was how they made you feel... 

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Thursday, July 11, 2013

NEW WEBSITE - I Hope You Will Follow It

Hi Everyone,

My sincerest apologies for not being thorough.  My new website address is  If you are following me here, please head on over and follow at the new WordPress site. 

I am grateful for your support and following.  I hope you enjoy the several new posts I have made at the new site as you have here.  I have transferred all the old material over there as well.

Thank you again,
Missy Bell

Monday, July 8, 2013

A Simple Tip on How to Show Yourself Some Love

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When I was about 12 years old we had a wipe board attached to the fridge for notes from my parents and older brother.  One morning I found the words, "I LOVE ME" were written in bold on it.  I though my brother had written it.  He was 9 years older than me and it would have just made sense for him at 17 to write that.

I approached my father with it later in the day and said something like, "Did you see that conceited note that Joey wrote on the fridge?"  My father just giggled.  "Read it again," he said.  So I did.  I couldn't understand why he found it funny.  It was rude in my eyes.  I always saw conceitedness as a negative trait to show.  He then gently pointed out that "I" was the one reading it.  It was meant as a message from whoever read it to whoever read it.  He reassured me that it was not conceit, it was OK to love myself and he thought we all needed a reminder.  WOW!  That concept blew my mind.  I loved it though.

Today, this would be called an affirmation.  If something positive is written and you repeat it often enough as if it is real and in the present, your subconscious will start to believe it. I'd like to share a "Conceited Love Note" with you and I want you to read it as if your subconscious was trying to send you a true message about yourself.  (Let's face it, it already is true but you just may not believe it all yet.)  Print it out and read it often.  You will be surprised at how your brain responds to it.  The below note was written just for you.  Enjoy!

The Conceited Love Note

I am wonderful
I have the ability to be whatever I choose
I am smart
I was born with the tools to succeed
My bank account does not define me
I am unique
I am filled with love and very loveable
I have what it takes to attract the right person and keep them
I have the ability to make a difference in the lives of those I love
I love life and look forward to the possibilities it holds
 I am grateful for what I have and who is in my life
I do the best I can every day in all I do
I say what I mean so I am understood but I am only kind with my words
I ask questions when I do not understand
I do not judge myself or others harshly
I give people compliments when they deserve them
I am kind
I never start drama
I forgive and do not hold grudges
I pay attention to my thoughts
Everything in my life happens for a reason
I have the ability to handle whatever life throws my way
I am in control of my responses to every situation
I am strong
I am a good person
I am successful in all I do

You can create your own affirmations or add to this one.  I hope you will.  It is important to have faith in yourself and who you are and who you want to be.  Affirmations, stated in the positive, as if they are true, become true after time and effort is put into repeating them more than once a day, aloud and believing them.

What will you do with this information?  Will you create your own?  Will you write one for your spouse of children to read daily?  Will you make one to read to your small children daily?

What a difference these can make in your life.

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Strategies to Stop Worrying

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Worry can consume you.  Some see it as a form of caring but if we look at it closer, it is a form of fear; fear that we cannot control or fix certain situations or that something could go wrong.

Worry has the ability to affect your health.  Have you ever heard the expression, “I’m worried sick?”  It can actually happen.

I have spent a great deal of my life in a worried state.  I believe I have come by it honestly through several generations of worriers.  As a child, I am told one of my favorite sayings was, “I’m so worried.“  I’m not sure if I knew then what worrying actually was.  I just saw so much of it being done that I thought it was what I was supposed to do. 

As an adult I worried about everything; what would or could happen in any given situation; about what my future held; if I would see the end of the world; whether my children would be safe; if we would lose our jobs; if a relative’s illness would end their lives; if it would rain when we had big plans; if the person I just passed on the side of the highway would remain safe; if I would offend someone with something I said; if my friend’s problem had a solution; if people I saw on the news in a tragic situation would recover emotionally; if I would find a solution for a real issue; if someone was mad at me; or if my children would grow up with the values I tried to instill in them.  The list could go on and on.

Practical Solutions for Situations Within Our Control
There are many types of  realistic problems that may have a solution such as how to pay a bill, how you will meet a work deadline or the how to work out the details of a gathering, etc.  These issues require our thoughts but not our worries.  Here are some suggestions on how to deal with situations that require a solution:

  1. Create a time to worry, (or to think) about what you can do to find a solution.  Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., Robert Segal, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D wrote an article entitled, “How to Stop Worrying - Self Help for Anxiety Relief,” at, in which they state that you should give yourself a time period of approximately 20-30 minutes during the day for which to focus on your issue(s).  
  2. Never dwell on issues at bed time.  Be sure to not schedule your solution time too close to bed time, or while you are in bed.  This will affect your sleep and you will not have success in solving any problems if you are tired and unable to sleep.  
  3. Write it down in a “solution journal“.  If you worry outside of that time period on something that may have a solution, write it down in your journal and return to it during your designated worrying time.  This will enable you to free your mind for other things and lessen the anxiety.
  4. Cross it off your list.  When you have a solution, write the solution next to the issue in the journal.  Do not cross off the solution but cross off the problem, leaving it visible.  
  5. Review previous issues that you have solved.  The next time you have an problem, review what you have previously conquered.  Have faith that if you conquered those issues, you can conquer the current one as well.  You may even find that you had forgotten what you used to solve a similar issue last time and in review, find your solution written right there in your journal.

How to Reduce Anxiety Over Things You Cannot Control
I think it took a few major events to happen in our lives to realize just how much I worried about things and just how little control I actually had.  My oldest son and I were in a car accident where a truck coming in the opposite direction turned in front of us, cutting us off and we hit him, sending us by ambulance to the ER.  Five short months later, my youngest son was in the back seat of a car with friends when they collided with a tree, rendering him unable to walk for more than 6 weeks because of a compound fracture to his lower leg.  Literally, 5 days after that accident my husband was on his way to work and was struck from behind in traffic by a tow truck.  He was out of work for 4 weeks with severe leg injuries as well as several other injuries. 

It was during that time when I realized that, yes, I nearly lost ½ my family in one week, all of us in a matter of 5 months.  I had absolutely no control over any of those situations.  I realized, during that time frame I spent at home caring for them that I would have to make some changes to my thought processes in order to not have a nervous breakdown when anyone left the house and got in a car.  I realized that I would need to change my perceptions.

I still have anxiety at times when I get in the car and I still have passing moments of worry when my children leave the house or when there is severe weather pending when my kids are out driving but I take some steps that I hope will help you as they have helped me ease the fear and worry and anxiety over issues I could not control:
  1. Ask yourself, “Can I control what happens?”  The truth is, most of the time, you cannot.
  2. Ask, “Am I trying to prevent a situation from happening that I do not even know will happen?”  For instance, am I preventing my child from leaving with a friend simply because I am worried about what could happen?  Be careful of this.  It can cause major resentment and end in lies and deception.  They often find ways to get what they want without our knowledge.
  3. Trust in a good outcome and trust in others.  Realize the joy people could create for themselves if they did not let the “what if” thoughts stop them.  Trust in others that they are there for you and those you worry about.  
  4. Let it go.  Change your perception, “In this situation, since I cannot control it, what can I do to enjoy it to it’s fullest?”  
  5. Review situations after they occur.  If you are worried about a situation and it’s possible negative outcomes, revisit the situation afterwards or ask someone who was involved in it.  See that nothing you were worried about happened.  This could prevent you from worrying the next time the same situation occurs.
  6. Think in a positive light.  Be mindful of what you are thinking.  If you catch yourself thinking in a negative light, change it immediately before it affects yourself and others.  Write it down as stated above and give it to your journal.  Do not return to this kind of worry though.  Let whatever higher power you believe in deal with it and have faith that it will be handled.
  7. Do not voice the scenario you are worrying about.  I try to remember one of Mark Victor Hansen’s famous quotes on the law of attraction, “what you think about, comes about.”  Do not give the universe to opportunity to create your scenario.  
  8. Do not pass your fear or worry on to someone else.  If you have a fear about a situation that you cannot control that involves someone else, passing it on to them will not make them be any more careful than what they normally would have been, it will only pass on the irrational feeling to them or make them worry about something they too have no control over or make them worry about you worrying.  That truly does not benefit anyone.
These are some examples that I hope will help you when it comes to worry and anxiety.  It will be a work in progress.  Bookmark the page, print them out, do whatever it takes to refer to them often so they become a habit. 

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Sunday, July 7, 2013

The Importance of Appreciating A Simple Moment

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 My purpose with this blog is to help others reduce stress and the amount of time spent on negative situations in order to increase happiness and have more peace in their lives, all the while, learning myself how to relax and enjoy life and those around me more. My ultimate goal is to learn to create and stay longer in the state of peace.

In keeping with this theme I thought I'd share with you just something cute that happened today.  It is something so small that if I blinked I just might have missed it.

I was running very low on gas, for the sheer reason that I was being lazy about stopping.  There were too many other things that had to be done today.  When I finally pulled into the best place in town to get gas, I had 5 miles left in my tank according to the dashboard readout.  My parents always called this, "running on fumes."

I opened the tank and prepared to fuel up.  When I placed the nozzle near the gas tank a white moth flew out from inside the compartment.  It immediately made me laugh out loud.  Typically the cartoons I've seen have been moths flying out of an empty wallet and other things that were empty.  This was just priceless.

The reason I wanted to share was just a gentle reminder to stay in the moment.  You never know when life, or nature in this case will throw a comedic moment at you to make something so mundane just a little bit better.  It was if nature was trying to say, "slow down a moment and look at me!"

I am truly grateful for moments like this, however small and insignificant it may have seemed to others.  I hope this will remind you to take time to notice what goes on around you and appreciate the simple moments.

What kind of things have you noticed lately that brightened you day that you otherwise would have missed if you weren't paying attention?

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Friday, July 5, 2013

Overcoming Fear – Part 2 – Tips and Strategies

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 Part 1 in this 2 part series is about how I tackled a life-long fear of failure in order to see one of my dreams come true. The feeling of success and accomplishment was more than I could put into words. I hope you will go back and read part 1 as well.

What is it that you are afraid of? What could you accomplish without that fear? What does your fear stop you from doing? Are you at a stand still because you are afraid of either success or failure?

The only reason one person has a fear of failure while someone standing beside them does not share the same fear is because of what they say to themselves. Are you afraid of roller coasters? If you are, what is the reason? I used to have a fear of falling out of the seats. If you realize what you are actually afraid of, you have the power to remove that fear. Many have conquered that fear by closing their eyes and braving the adventure, only to step off the coaster and scream, “Let's do that again!”

Do you feel stuck in your job? Do you feel you will never get any further in your career than where you are right now? Is it affecting your overall mood and behavior? It doesn't have to. There is truly nothing stopping you from looking elsewhere. Don't use excuses such as, “The economy is bad; there's nothing out there,” “I don't have a degree,” etc. People are hired daily in every profession, even without a degree. My husband is working in the high paying field of computer software design. He decided it was what he wanted and would love to do. He went out, purchased programming books and taught himself several different computer programming languages and was awarded the job based on the knowledge he was able to display and convey to the interviewer. Believe it can be you and take action toward making it happen with whatever it is that makes you happy. Don't stop trying if you do not get the first job you interview for or if you do not reach your goal right away. I'm obviously not suggesting that you quit the job you have if you are unhappy. What I'm saying is that you could start your quest for happiness in another job or career by taking steps toward getting a different job while making money with the job you currently have. You have the power to conquer your fear.

Some fears are rational. They keep us safe from doing things that would otherwise injure us. They keep us alert as we walk alone to our car in a poorly lit parking lot. That same fear allows us to stay alert and ready to face a dangerous situation.

The type of fear I am addressing here is irrational fear. The emotions that stop you from experiencing something because you are afraid of how it will make you feel. These feelings start in the mind. We speak them to ourselves silently, over and over. We believe our subconscious and in order to protect ourselves we avoid the very thing, that if we just did it, could enable us to conquer that fear and lead to an amazing number of possibilities.

Ways of Acquiring Fear
There are many types of fear and many ways we acquire them. We are not born with it, it is something we learn and hold onto as we experience life. Recognizing and coming to terms with this can help you evaluate if your fear is even valid and possibly help you move past it.
  1. Fears Adopted from Others - Some fears are adopted from the fears our parents, siblings or relatives had and some are adopted when we read about the failures, emotional pain or injuries acquired by others. Those fears are not your own and it is important to recognize that. What happened to other people may never happen to you. It is also never possible to know the exact experiences of another person that have created that fear. 

  2. Fears Based on Lies - Fear can be based on lies. I remember when I was young someone told me that dragonflies had the ability to sew your mouth closed and they knew someone it happened to. I believed that lie and was, for the longest time, extremely scared of dragonflies.
    Friends and acquaintances may lie to us as well and tell us that what we have set out to accomplish is a goal that is unobtainable at our skill level. Again, always a lie. You have the power to achieve whatever you set your mind to as long as you believe.
    It is important to decipher for ourselves what fears are rational and which are not.

  1. Fear Through Experience - There are fears that we have discovered through our own experiences. Perhaps we made a judgment based on one event or a series of events and assumed that the same results would happen again if we tried. Success may be lurking around the corner but we would never find it without lack of fear.
    Fear can also manifest when we experience an event and determine that the feeling derived from it is worse than the benefits the event's possible positives could have brought you. For instance, imagine trying to accomplish something that you've always wanted to do but every time you try you don't reach your goal. Personal rejection may set in or fear of failure. You may determine that the negative feelings you receive from that are too much for you to handle.
Overcoming Fear
What if you kept trying? What if you didn't listen to that fear? What if you decided not to let yourself feel it? What if you could overcome it? How far could you go?

If Thomas Edison had feared failure he would have never have invented the light bulb. His “failures” were numbered at over 10,000. If he had believed he was a failure it may have stopped him. Instead, after the invention finally worked he stated that he had never actually failed, he had only discovered all the ways the light bulb would not work. What a brilliant perception! If he had not felt that way, we may still be sitting in the dark. One of Thomas Edison's famous quotes was, “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
  1. Identify Your Fear's Origin and Validity - Identify one of your fears that is stopping you from doing something you've always wanted to do. Evaluate that fear and question whether or not it stems from your past and if it's even a valid fear in your present. Your fear may be outdated and no longer serving its purpose, in which case you need to eliminate it and move on to reach that goal that you are destined to accomplish.

  2. Change Your Perception - Fear is a matter of perception. By changing your perception, the way you look at the situation, you may find that fear is not necessary, in fact, you may see how it is holding you back.

    Imagine yourself accomplishing your goal and the triumph you would feel when you succeeded. It would outweigh any feelings of failure and fear of accomplishment and enable you to push yourself farther to let you accomplish more by setting new goals. Knowing you accomplished the first mission, failing along the way, you would realize that your next failure is only a stepping block to feeling that triumph again when you meet or exceed the next objective. This concept can basically be applied to any type of goal; weight loss, exercise, getting a job you desperately desire, starting a new money-making hobby or venture, finishing a marathon, the list goes on.

    If someone else has accomplished it, so can you. It may require more effort than that person but if someone has done it, it can be done again. It just comes down to how badly you want it, whether you are willing to believe in yourself and how much effort you are willing to put into it.

  3. A Positive Cancels a Negative – Change what you are saying to yourself. For instance, if you are telling yourself that you are not good enough, state that you are. If you hear yourself saying that you are not smart enough, stop believing that and do some research if necessary to educate yourself on the subject. Are you afraid of failure? You must discard all negative thoughts associated with the fear and decide that whatever someone else tells you, only you can decide what to believe. Believe you can!
    Henry Ford once said, “Failure is simply an opportunity to begin again, only more intelligently.”

  4. Use Affirmations, Believe in Yourself - If you want to overcome your fear you must decide that you believe in yourself. This often takes more work than just reading an article. This work takes time. You must focus your energy on and spend a great deal of time in that belief state in order to make this happen. Using affirmations, written statements of belief and putting them where you can read them aloud twice daily will set you in the right direction for this.
Don't let fear stop you from enjoying a fulfilled life and accomplishing your dreams. Discover what is stopping you or choose not to think about the fear. Take action and move forward. Adopt a new motto, “Giving up is not an option. I want this and will accomplish it not matter how many times I have to try without success.” You will amaze yourself with the end results. You must believe in the strength inside you. Do not believe the opinions of others who doubt you. They will be the first ones praising you silently when you succeed.

If you feel this has or will help you. Please feel free to print it out and post it somewhere for future reference.

What action will you take now that you have the tools above to conquer your fear? What are some goals you will set now that you know you can accomplish your dreams? Please share below.

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Thursday, July 4, 2013

Overcoming Fear Part 1 - Heart Versus Mind

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This is part 1 in a 2-part series on Fear. Today I'd like to share with you a fear of mine and the story of how I overcame it and went on to accomplish something I thought I never could. Tomorrow's post will include tips on how to overcome your own fears. Please check back in for that.

I would say that my biggest fear is a fear of failure. I don't like how I feel when I don't meet my own expectations or the expectations of others. I've always been my own worst critic. In the past, if I didn't meet my expectations I would beat myself up over it and sometimes go as far as to end up in a depression.

I have always considered myself a writer. I started writing poetry about the age of 15, sharing them over the years with anyone who would read them. I had some disappointment from time to time but almost everyone I shared them with strengthened my beliefs that I was a great writer.

I eventually gained enough confidence to send my poems off to a great number of poetry contests and publishers and received an almost equal number of rejection letters. The rejection was devastating. I stopped sharing my poetry as often because I started to believe that even those who supported me in the past would start to reject my efforts as did the professionals who were reviewing them. I didn't want to feel like I was not good at something I loved so much. I took the rejections personally and I let the pain of it get to me. Over time, I stopped writing. I feared those feelings and did not want to revisit them.

When my children were young teens I found that binder of collected poems that I had written since I was a teen and tried typing them in to save them so I could share them with my children and one day, my grandchildren. I would get approximately 10 poems entered into the computer and just stop. I didn't feel that it was worth it. I did not have enough faith in myself to believe that anyone would even care to read them. I started having the feelings I felt after I received those rejection letters. I put the binder away as well as my desire to see them published. I decided that without the desire, there would be no pain.

A few years later the binder showed up in my son's room. I'm not sure if he had been reading them or not. The vision came again so clearly, as if a force was pushing me. I thought I'd try to type them in again. I would envision having them all typed in and submitting them to a publisher, waiting several months to receive a rejection letter and have to start all over again. Those thoughts stopped me in my tracks.

One night, about a year ago, I made last minute plans with a friend to go out to dinner. We sat across from each other and talked for more than an hour and half about everything, just getting caught up. One thing she mentioned was her friend's accomplishment in one of her college courses. Her friend had been going for her degree for business in preparation to open her own bakery. One of the class assignments was to create a manual to submit to a bank to obtain financing. My friend had helped her by having it printed and bound. The wheels started turning. I felt everything from envy to desire to accomplish this myself.

Stephanie showed me the book. I felt extreme pride for the woman I barely knew who had created it. It was in that moment I decided that no matter what it took, I would see those poems in print. My parents, children and generations to come would see them in print. Enough was enough. I was going to conquer this fear that no longer served a purpose for me.

Every spare moment for the next several days was spent searching the internet for a website where I could self-publish my poetry book. Once I found the perfect website, the fear kicked in again. “What if I can't do this? I've tried so many times to get this done and have never been able to. I don't want to feel that disappointment again.” I had a couple days of doubt but did not lose my desire. I had dreams at night about finishing it this time.

My thoughts were so focused on accomplishing this. It seemed to take up a great deal of space in my mind each day. I kept seeing that book in my hand, fully printed and sharing it with people I cared about.

One day, on the way to work I realized the perfect way to get the poems entered quickly. I would speak them as a voice message on my phone as a text and send it to my e-mail. This would save a great deal of time compared to typing them into the computer.

I spent my lunch hours for about a week and a half in my car reading all 90 poems aloud into my phone. In no time I had my ISBN from, the poems were entered, formatted and edited. I couldn't stop. As soon as those old fears of failure kicked in, I shut them out and went to work, all the while keeping the idea of that finished product in my head. I finished with the creation of the cover.

A few weeks later I received my first copies of the beautiful book I had written. Friends bought them to kick it off and that book is now available to the public at I called it, “Heart Versus Mind: Words That Touch Your Heart.”

I have not yet seen the success I have defined in my head but it has not stopped me. I realized that I needed to conquer that fear in order to move forward. I have renewed my confidence in my writing and, here we are today with you reading the results of that conquered fear of failure in my new blog. There are several other book titles I have in mind and will write and now I know that I can accomplish it.

I beat that fear by telling myself that if someone else accomplished it, I could too, and I would. I decided to believe in myself and dig deep to keep the confidence. I was fortunate to have support from many friends. As I was in the preparation stages I shared my excitement on FaceBook and it became contagious. I have never felt so alive.

Imagine what you could accomplish if you removed a fear of yours and started to believe in yourself. Don't wait for someone else to believe in you. Sure, it's a great feeling but don't wait for other people's approval. It's up to you. It's your accomplishment, not theirs. You are the one who will reap the benefits of the positive emotions your success will provide.

Do you have fears that you have overcome? Once you did, did you find the confidence to go on to accomplish other things? Please feel free to share them below.

Tomorrow's post will offer some tips on how to conquer your fears. I hope you will come back to check it out. It is already written and I can tell you with confidence that it will inspire you to reconsider your fears and start moving forward without them.

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Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Clear Questions to Ask to Reduce Assumptions

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 We will never really know the full picture of anything in life. Putting two and two together does not always equal 4.  There are a great deal of stories, thoughts, hidden actions and perceptions to every side of every story.  In order to fill in the missing pieces we use assumptions, thoughts we perceive to be true based on the information we have been fed.  Keep in mind, that information is based on another person’s perceptions and the information they want you to have.

Not everyone wants you to know the whole picture.  People will lie in order to portray a truth they want you to see.  Sometimes the lies are for your own good and other times they are to benefit the person painting the picture.

Filling in the blanks with your own pieces can be very detrimental.  The affects can be minor or major, depending on your assumption and the individual situation.

At one of my former jobs we have certain hours or operation. These hours are posted online and are available with a simple phone call.  It never fails though, that each time I worked I had to turn patrons away, some who have driven for a hour and arrive just before closing time.  I can just imagine how the conversation went once they left the building.  A simple call or website visit before they left could have saved a great deal of time and frustration.  Instead, they assumed the hours, causing an unnecessarily long drive with nothing to show for it.

Assuming in a Relationship
It is easy to assume.  In our society we want answers and we want them quickly.  Our impatience can cause us to choose to see what we want to see for many different reasons. 

I have seen simple assumptions have detrimental affects on relationships.  Take a look at finances.  How many of us have assumed a bill has been paid by someone else in the household only to find out later you now have a late charge or cancelled service because they had not paid it?  This could then cause blame from both involved and result in arguments.

We may choose to assume we can figure out what our partner or friend is thinking or why they did or said a certain something.  No matter how well you know someone, you will never know someones true intention unless they speak it.  There are many ways to say how one feels or thinks.  If you are offended by someones words, ask what they meant by what was said.  You may find that there was nothing to be offended by once the explanation is given.

A simple assumption such as, "I don't think he/she loves me anymore," can eventually end a relationship that could have been saved by working through the actual issue itself.  With assumptions we create more issues.  We act in accordance with our own thoughts.  If we think we are not loved, we in turn will hold our own love from the other person to avoid being hurt further.  I have seen people also say very hurtful things to their significant other because of this assumption.  Eventually the relationship ended.

I recall a time when several members of my family were at a seminar together at a very large convention center.  We split up at the end.  Some used the bathroom while others went to get the car.  We did not have a firm meeting place and ended up searching for each other literally for 4 hours!  The ones who had gone off to the bathroom did not have phones on them or the batteries had run out.  By the time we found each other there was an extreme tension and irritation with each other, leaving us stressed for quite some time.  My mother actually became physically sick from the stress.

In instances such as the ones just given, it can affect not only our relationship with the other person, but it can also affect our health.  These types of assumptions can lead to depression, anxiety, sleep deprivation, high blood pressure or stomach issues, all of which can lead to more serious conditions.

Assumptions on the Job
There are dangers of drawing your own false conclusions in your work environment as well.  Imagine assuming that your boss is out to get you.  What types of repercussions could this have?  It could cause you to be paranoid, make mistakes, decrease work effectiveness and lose respect from your co-workers.  I've seen it cause people to behave irrationally and even lose their jobs.

If you work with customers it is easy to assume that you know what the customer wants or needs without listening to the full story.  Most of the time interaction with a customer requires the employee to listen and ask questions to be sure the customer is understood.  Guessing what they need often results in the customer being unsatisfied with the end result and the level of customer service.  Good customers can be lost in the process.  If the outcome is extreme enough, your job could be lost as well.

Completing the Puzzle
There are many different situations in which one may use assumptions to piece together the rest of a puzzle in order to see the entire picture but using this method does not give a full picture. It is like forcing pieces where they do not belong to make an alternate picture.  With assumptions you will never see the beauty of the true picture.

How do we avoid assuming?  It is all around us.  It is a part of our nature.  Here are some suggestions:

Ask Questions
If you feel you are confused, missing pieces, not understanding what someone means, thinks or feels, ask questions. People will respect you for caring enough to understand them and the situation; your mind will be put to ease knowing the truth as you were meant to see it; future confrontations may be avoided; customers will remain loyal; you will maintain better health and relationships will be saved.

Here are some sample questions you can ask.  Tailor them to the situation.

“What did you mean by that?”
“How do you really feel”
“What are you thinking?”
“Why did you do that?”
“What are your intentions?”
“How can I help you?”
“Is there something I can do to help this situation?”
“Will you have time later, if so when?”
“Where should we meet if we are separated?”
“If (this situation) occurs, what would you like me to do?”

These are just a few questions that could save you from assumptions that lead to misunderstanding.  Try to think ahead for prevention and when the time comes, pay attention to your thoughts.  If you find yourself assuming, clarify.

Asking questions in any situation can save you from misunderstandings that could otherwise lead to less misunderstandings.

Be Patient
You can choose to not ask questions if you are uncomfortable or unsure of what to ask.  If you use this strategy, be sure to think the best of the situation in the meantime.  There are some situations where it will be necessary to wait, such as, hearing back after a job interview.  Stay positive.  Trust that pieces that are missing will fall into place in due time, allowing you to witness an even more beautiful picture than what you have in your mind.  Patience is a virtue.

This is not always the best strategy if you are impatient or not good at being mindful of your thoughts.  If you are not good at either of these things, you may find yourself assuming subconsciously as time goes on, in which case, clarification will be needed.

Staying Aware and Being Clear
When you are communicating with others, try to be mindful of how you are coming across.  Don't leave room for others to make assumptions.  Be clear with your intentions. This is another area where asking questions can come in handy.  Ask questions to be sure you were understood if there are doubts or if your words could be taken to have multiple meanings.

The biggest key is to focus more on your thoughts.  Pay attention to what you’re thinking and evaluate it. Your thoughts are your personal truth, no one else’s.  Evaluate your thoughts and ask yourself if this is something you are projecting on someone or on a situation.  Is your thought valid or does it come from the part of you that feels the need to see the entire picture for what it is according to you.

When you fill in the blanks with assumptions, there is a high degree of probability that you will assume wrong.  You know what they say about assuming…?

If you have a significant other, it is important to share this with them.  If you are both on the same page and working together to understand each other it will strengthen the relationship.

I would love to discuss this further.  Please comment below:  What type of misunderstandings can you think of that could be caused by assuming?  What other ways can you think of to prevent assuming?  In what ways could not assuming better your quality of life, increase your peace and your happiness?

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Tuesday, July 2, 2013

How the Desire to be Perfect Can Affect You

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 Although I have never seen the movie, and after reading some of the other quotes from it, I am not sure the movie would fit into what I'd like to discuss here but after seeing the following quote tattooed across my son's best friend's chest, I wanted to talk about what the phrase meant to me.  "May I never be perfect," quoted from Fight Club, written by Chuck Palahniuk really made me think.

I did not discuss with Jory in detail about what this quote meant to him, other than the fact that he liked the movie, but I can only imagine that if he went through all that pain to get the tattoo, the phrase itself must have it's own meaning to him as well.

I would never want to be perfect.  Not only is it too much pressure to maintain but if I were perfect, there would be nothing greater to strive for.

Several people have disagreed with me but I do not believe there is such a thing as perfection.  We may have areas in our lives or our looks that may be considered perfect but I think there is no such thing as being completely perfect.

After reading my blog post from yesterday,, "10 Ways to Improve Your Self Image," Melissa, one of the readers mentioned that people around her feel that she thinks she is perfect and they are constantly pointing out her flaws because of it.  As it turns out, it isn't how she sees herself at all.  It would upset me to know that the people in my life I care about are constantly watching, waiting for me to make a mistake or prove my lack of perfection.

I think we put a great number of people up on pedestals only to realize they are just like you and me.

Please do not misunderstand.  Some may feel that if perfection is not obtainable then why should they even try?  This is not the message I want to send.  Should we strive for perfection?  Absolutely.  Wanting to be the best we can be is an admirable trait that not everyone has.  It requires deep desire, ambition, dedication, and the strength to keep moving forward.

I feel that if we strive for perfection, we should be willing to accept that we will never completely reach it.  We should not allow ourselves to get stressed by letting negative thoughts to enter our sub-conscious when we realize it, nor should we let the desire to be perfect consume our every move.    Being weighed down by the stress and anxiety of pushing for perfection on a consistent basis and not reaching it only sets us up for feeling like a constant failure, leaving us in a negative state of mind.  (As stated in my previous blog, I cannot stress the importance of staying aware of what we are thinking.)

Anthony Robbins uses the acronym, CANI to describe his principle, "Constant And Never-ending Improvement."  That is the state I would like to reside in, never perfection.  The difference here is the realization that perfection is not obtainable but improvement is a step forward toward being a better you.  With this philosophy we recognize that we have room for improvement and we can better ourselves by improving one thing at a time.

wrote an article for called, "Perfectionism and Panic Disorder, How Perfectionism Can Impact Panic and Anxiety" in which she notes that when people set such high standards for themselves in order to reach perfectionism, they are more prone to psychological issues and possibly even physical illness. The acceptance of others becomes so important that they strive at all costs to reach it, in turn causing such issues as panic disorder, OCD, social anxiety, distress, loneliness, depression, negative thinking and self blame to name a few.  She states, "This ideal sets a person up for failure, disappointment, and negative self-evaluations. Perfectionists are often very self-critical, and may even scrutinize the performance of others when it doesn’t live up to their impractical standards."

May I never be perfect!!  I want to leave room for failure in order to learn from my mistakes.  I want to be able to be relaxed in my life and not stressed about the possibility of not reaching perfection with all that I do.  I want to live by the CANI principle and feel comfortable knowing that the definition of doing any one thing perfectly can and will change and there is room for it, even after it's completion.  I just feel that if I allow myself to not be perfect and accept that I am not but continue to improve myself, I will be happier and more at peace because of it.

I want to hear from you.  I am certain there are people out there who oppose my thoughts here and I would love to hear your side.  Please discuss your feelings on this below.

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Sunday, June 30, 2013

10 Ways to Improve Your Self Image

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 When Ashley Monroe from my home town was 16, she recognized the need to do something drastic.  She was tired of hearing everyone in her high school putting themselves down.  She wrote, "You're Beautiful" on 1,986 sticky notes and placed them on every locker to make a statement.  My son was one of the recipients of these notes and was very touched by it.  Many of those students had gotten into a place where they were putting themselves down initially for attention but after a while, started to believe what they were saying about themselves.

It's a shame that so many of us see ourselves in a negative light.  I have spoken with so many people who are told they are beautiful but still choose to not believe it.  We are so busy criticizing ourselves and assuming what others are thinking about us and worrying about them judging us that we do not take the time to appreciate the good things about ourselves.

Back In Time

Let's stroll back in time and take a look at some of the things you remember being told about yourself.  Did people point out what they thought were your physical imperfections?  Did they tell you that you were not good enough at something you really wanted to do?  Did someone simply just have a way of berating you and making you feel "less-than?"  Or were you the culprit, keeping yourself down with negative self talk? You may have chosen to believe it simply because it was said or you heard it in your own voice. You may have even trusted the person it came from. 

We also watch what others do and are capable of and we compare our best to theirs and if we don't match that in our own eyes, instead of working harder, putting in the time and focusing on just improving where we start from, we lie to ourselves.  We say that we are not good enough to compete with them.  The thing is, often times we don't stop there.  Those thoughts start reminding us of all the ways we did not measure up in our own minds and we end up believing that we just aren't good enough, period.  This sets us up for all kinds of future issues.  Have you ever caught yourself doing this?

What you may not have realized was that you actually had the choice to hold on to it or discard it.  We also have the choice to believe that when it comes to competing, we should only compete with ourselves.  We all have our own starting points and should compare ourselves only to our most recent best.

Making the Change

Are you ready to put all of this behind you?  Only you have the power.  It may seem unnatural at first because of what you are used to, but if you make the following steps a habit, you will guarantee yourself some freedom from that negativity you keep hearing inside your own head.

1.  You must stop listening to other people's negativity.  If someone has something to say to you that is negative, dismiss it immediately.  Do not get defensive and argue about it with someone because adding emotion to the situation causes the memories and the pain of it to last longer.  Remember that some people are just insecure or angry and lash out at other people without regard for their feelings.  Often times it comes from insecurity and is not the truth.

2.  Always be aware of your thoughts.  Pay close attention to what you hear yourself saying inside your own head.  Follow the above instructions by dismissing the negative immediately.

3.  Question what you once thought was truth.  Realize that the only things that are actually true are things you decide to believe.

4.  Make a change only under your own terms.  For instance, if someone comments negatively about your weight, whether the scale reflects what they say or not, never make the change based on their comments.  Only make changes for yourself.  If you are not ready for the change and do something to make a statement based on someone else's judgment, any results you experience will not be lasting.

5.  Call the person out on it if you are comfortable.  State the opposite aloud.  If someone tells you that you're hair looks terrible, thank them and tell them that it wasn't them you were trying to impress and that you happen to like it that way.  Do not let them have power over your thoughts.

6.  Affirm the opposite.  In correlation with number 5, use a positive statement to counteract what someone has said or what you are saying in your head, such as, instead of, "I look fat in this dress," use, "I look amazing in this dress.  I am so glad I made the choice to wear it today," and BELIEVE that statement.  Affirming the positive will lessen the chances of the negative sticking in your head.  Creating any kind of affirmation and repeating it on a daily basis to counteract something you feel you are stuck on and posting where you can repeat it aloud before bed and in the morning is a very efficient way to create change.

7.  Eliminate past judgments.  For the old tapes we play in our head that were perhaps from ourselves, our parents, siblings, friends or relatives years ago, discard the tape or tape over it.  Remind yourself that the person may have thought they were helping you in some way but in no way were they telling you the truth. 

8.  Do the opposite. Perhaps you quit at something when you were young because you didn't like it.  It does not make you a quitter.  Find something you like and stick with it and you will create a new positive label.

9.  Forgive.  It is important when trying to let something go that you forgive the person who you feel is responsible for placing a label or negative thought in your head but at the same time realize, only you have the power to believe what someone says about you.  It does not need to be your truth. 

10. Simply relax and never, ever, take things personal.  This cannot be stressed enough.  So many things are said carelessly by others and once out of their mouths they have forgotten what they even said.  By taking something personal you are not only assuming how it was meant but you set yourself up to hold onto that negative.  Feel free to ask questions as to why the person said what they did.  Having clarification may help you to understand it was not meant as a personal attack.

Feel free to print these steps out and place them on your fridge or bathroom mirror where you can be reminded of them on a regular basis.

Taking these steps will hopefully start you in the right direction of starting to see yourself in a much kinder light and lead you toward a greater inner peace and happiness. This will alleviate some of the stress and anxiety you may feel when you are out amongst others.  Not everyone is judging you.  Most people who do not know you will look at you and look away without a second thought.  Those who interact with you, if they are a person of integrity, will see you for who you are through your personality.

One of my favorite quotes is from Bernard Burach which states, "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."  Keep this quote in mind when faced with the judgment of others.

Please discuss below ways you would recommend for other people to help them see themselves in a better light.

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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

How to Use Forgiveness as a Stress Reducer

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 We were enjoying ourselves at a fair the other evening when we were approached by a young man and his friend who were extremely angry.  They stood in front of my husband, son, friend and I and seemed over the edge as if they were ready to fight all three of us.  At first we had no idea what this man's problem was and we thought for sure it was a case of mistaken identity on his part.

He was very adamant that we, as a group, had a major issue with some people he knew.  As he went on and on, he became even more agitated and his stance was very threatening.  It was obvious that whatever it was this young man had thought we were involved in was extreme.  He felt so strongly that it was eating away at him.

I am a very non-confrontational person so I thought for sure he couldn't be referring to me. His name-dropping went on for a few minutes until he finally mentioned the name of one of our best friends.  He was convinced that we wanted to start a fight with our friend's sister and brother-in-law.

The interesting part was that it was the other way around.  My son had left his charger at our friend's house after we attended her son's birthday party and upon returning to retrieve it, he stomped loudly up the stairs to her second story apartment.  Her sister and brother-in-law lived on the first floor and came out threatening our son who was only 17 at the time.  After they were done verbally abusing him, they came outside and started screaming at the top of their lungs at us.  We were not interested in being involved in the drama and drove off.  As we did, they chased us down the street screaming at us.

This incident happened so long ago that we truly had forgotten about it.  But this young man standing before us had obviously held on to whatever story his parents had told him and was ready to fight three adults and a minor, whoever jumped first.  This anger did him no good.  We could have chosen to hang on to the anger of that situation.  We were the ones who were originally verbally attacked and the intensity of that situation would have made had most people calling the police, but we did not.  Time passed and we let it go.

I cannot imagine the stress this young man had been carrying with him all this time.  It was absolutely unnecessary.  I'm doubting that his parents told him the truth about the situation and what actually occurred and he was not there when it happened.  Yet, he held onto the anger that was created by a fabrication and exaggeration of a story he was told over a year and a half ago.

When we allow anger to occupy our thoughts, we decrease our own chance for happiness.  A positive thought cannot exist in the mind where there is a negative thought present.  When we learn to forgive people we are able to move on and free up space for positive thoughts. This can reduce stress and create greater possibilities and happiness in your life. 

Be mindful of your thoughts.  If you are holding a grudge for something you think someone did, said, or even thought, remember that it is not worth your own happiness.  You being angry at someone else does not change the situation; it only prevents you from moving forward.  It can actually keep you stuck right where you are.  It is equally true that you should not carry anger for other people.  Their drama is theirs to sort through, deal with and forgive.  You have enough in your own life to focus on.  Don Miguel Ruiz states, "Forgiveness is the only way to heal your emotional wounds.  Forgive those who hurt you no matter what they've done because you don't want to hurt yourself every time you remember what they did.  When you can touch a wound and it doesn't hurt, then you know you have truly forgiven."

Think about your recent past, your childhood, your family, people you no longer talk to.  Who do you need to forgive in order to move forward?  Write it in a note.  It's not necessary to give it to the person.  They may not even realize you have been carrying this with you or even understand why or how it has truly affected you.  Just let it go.  Rip up that note after it is written or burn it.  As you do, tell yourself that it is over and you are moving on.  Hopefully you will feel a weight lifted from your shoulders.

Forgiveness is just one step closer to peace.

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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Live By Your Own Rules - Stress Reduction Part 2

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 As a part of my reducing stress segment on this blog page, I'd like to take a few short minutes to talk about something important in my life right now. I hope that by the time you have finished reading it, you will be able to see things in a different light and perhaps it will help you reduce a bit of stress in your own life.

My latest post on FaceBook, "Life is too short to live by other people's rules" has prompted me to write this.  We do.  We live by other people's rules and we forget to listen to ourselves.  Some rules, of course are naturally meant to be followed in order to keep society from falling apart.  There are laws and basic guidelines that everyone should follow, one example being, the Golden Rule.  But we really should be listening to is ourselves.  We all lead different lives, even within a family unit.  We all experience events in our own unique way, with our own set of feelings toward it.  Therefore, it would only make sense that the rules that we set for ourselves must match who we are, not who someone else is.  It is what makes us unique.

Take some time to listen to yourself.  Find out who you are, where you want to go with your future, what you want from today, next week, next month and next year and make rules, set guidelines, create goals that are unique to you.  Break them down step by step and start where you stand, but start.

Progress will take time but you will learn to become your own person by doing this.  We all want to be a part of something, a family, a group of friends, a work group and society in general but often times lose ourselves by defining who we are based on what the group is or how we want the group to see us.  Break away from that definition (not necessarily the group) and define yourself as you truly want to see yourself.

I am a mother, wife, friend, daughter, sister, aunt, niece and so much more to everyone else but what is most important is who I am to me.

It is time to cast aside personal judgement and stop allowing others to judge you as well.  Remember, "What other people think about you is none of your business."  Go forth... LIVE BY YOUR OWN RULES!!

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Monday, June 17, 2013

The Affects of Stress and How to Begin Reducing It

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With some of the most major results of stress being deadly I feel it is important to start with this subject by helping you to gain a better understanding of stress, what causes it and how to reduce it. With this information we can begin our journey to a happier life with greater peace.

WebMD sights that, “90% of doctor related visits are due to stress related ailments or complaints.” With those numbers being so high, it is important that we all take as many steps as possible to reduce it.

Stress Defined
Stress is a major cause of a great number of illnesses that can be mild to severe, even deadly. What exactly is it? The best definition I found was from which states, Stress in humans results from interactions between persons and their environment that are perceived as straining or exceeding their adaptive capacities and threatening their well-being.”

I am currently working on a project to assist people like you in learning the necessary tools to reduce the effects by teaching you how to adapt easier when stress arises.

Stress comes in may forms, from many different directions and can send us over the edge in a matter of minutes but with the right techniques you can learn to cope quickly and get back in the game, making strides toward controlling the issues that caused the stress so they do not control you or your physical heath.

Stress is everywhere. We even cause our own stress when it is not necessary simply by the power of our own thoughts. That's why I chose the definition above. I would like to share with you and others methods of fighting back and regaining control over it by using certain tools and techniques that I will explain in detail in this blog and the program I will be releasing in a few weeks.

Side Effects of Stress
Long-term stress without relief will build up causing toxins in the body as well as in the mind. The following is a few short lists of some of the symptoms that could result from prolonged stress:

Emotional Symptoms
  • Depression
  • Losing touch of reality
  • Suicide attempts
  • Irritability and loss of temper
  • Higher tendency to turn to substances for relief
  • Inability to exercise self-control
  • Unable to use rational thought
  • Decrease in emotional awareness
  • Anxiety
Physical Symptoms
  • Ulcers
  • High blood pressure
  • Irritable bowel syndrome
  • Heart attack
  • Obesity
  • High blood sugar and diabetes
  • Stroke
  • Asthma
  • Acid reflux disease
  • Cancer
  • Fatigue
  • Arthritis
  • Decreased metabolism
  • Headaches and migraines
  • Unexplained stomach issues including but not limited to vomiting or diarrhea
Results of Stress
  • Strain on relationships
  • Divorce
  • Abuse
  • Decreased sexual drive
  • Job loss
  • Loss of interest in hobbies
  • Seclusion
The lists above are short compared to the actual number of ways stress can attack our minds and bodies, the way it can control us and the fallout that manifests. If you think you may be in danger of stress having extreme effects on you, please seek professional help from your primary care physician or a therapist.

The types of stresses that people carry are as unique as the individual themselves. It could be something small such as an assumption of what someone thinks about you, anxiety over your child or a loved one's behavior, or as extreme as a prolonged major life changing event such as a job loss, divorce, death of a loved one or a life-threatening disease.

One thing that is often not considered is that prolonged minor stress can cause the effects that could lead to major stress. The cycle must be slowed and minimized in order to prevent this.

Stress Can Affect Brain Volume
In a January 2012 Article in Time written by Alice Park, she discusses an article written in the journal, “Biological Psychiatry” by Dr. Rajita Sinha, Director of the Yale Stress Center. Dr. Sinha reported on a study which stated that extremely stressful life events can lead to shrinkage in parts of the brain responsible for regulating emotions and metabolism and that a lifetime of stress can cause dramatic changes in brain volume especially in the frontal lobe which is responsible for self-control, emotions and physiological functions such as maintaining proper glucose and insulin levels.

A Few Ways to Reduce Your Stress Level
There are so many different techniques that they could not all possibly be expressed in one article. I hope to do that over time however, in order to assist you with better health and increased peace in your life by reducing some of your stress.

In closing, I would like to touch on a few things you can do immediately to reduce your current stress level. In upcoming blog articles I will go into further detail about additional techniques and give you tools to use. Please try incorporating a few ideas from the list below:
  • Choose to associate with positive people and lessen time with negative people
  • Increase your physical activity
  • Be aware of your thoughts
  • Delegate tasks when possible
  • Sleep 8 hours per night
  • Keep an ongoing list of what you need to accomplish
  • Make a schedule
  • Find a hobby that will allow you to take your mind off what you cannot change
  • Try Meditation or Yoga
These are some of the most well-known but often forgotten ways to reduce stress. It is a great beginning. Make the ones that suit you a habit and we will build from there.

Please return often for updated information and I encourage you to ask questions or comment below.

For further reading, see my sources for this article below:
Biological Psychiatry Journal

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

(This blog site and all of it's material has been moved over to my own domain at  Please follow from there as this will not be receiving updates.  Thank you for stopping by.) 

WELCOME!  I am excited to be starting this blog site and I am grateful you have taken the time to check it out.  I hope you will subscribe and check back often.  It will be designed to assist you with the tools necessary to teach you how to reduce your stress and fears and unlock within yourself potential you never realized you had.

I have used these techniques to move to a different level in my life.  Granted, no one can be happy every minute of every day.  There are times when stress will grab a hold of you and it will not be as easy as other times to let it go, but if you are committed to following the steps I will be discussing, these tools will definitely assist you in lessening the level of stress and negativity and minimizing the length of time you experience it.  These articles and blogs will move you toward a more peaceful life.

I am currently writing a magazine and book on the subject as well as creating a program that will outline everything in detail and can be used in your everyday life to accelerate the process and keep you on track.  Keep your eyes open for those. 

Thank you for visiting and please recommend this blog to anyone you think could benefit from stress reduction and more peace in their lives.

Missy Cantlin Bell
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 (This blog site and all of it's material has been moved over to my own domain at  Please follow from there as this will not be receiving updates.  Thank you for stopping by.)